MEETING OPTIONS DURING THE CORONAVIRUS: The Law Offices of Peter Van Aulen understands your concerns regarding the spread of the Coronavirus, and now offers different meeting options to our clients and those seeking legal representation. All meetings, including initial consultations, can be handled either through the phone, FaceTime, Zoom, or in person.

Coping with Being Alone After a New Jersey Divorce

A New Jersey divorce can be legally challenging but also an emotionally draining experience. The reality is that it is natural to feel quite lost and even alone following the conclusion of New Jersey divorce proceedings. There are some key ways in which you can cope with being alone following a New Jersey marriage dissolution case:

  • Take time to grieve
  • Focus on self-care
  • Build a support network
  • Avoid isolating yourself
  • Embrace your new life
  • Practice gratitude

We discuss each of these important coping strategies in turn in this article.

Take Time to Grieve

It's important to allow yourself time to grieve the loss of your marriage. Don't try to rush through the process or push your emotions aside. Take the time to process your feelings and work through them in a healthy way. This can include seeing a therapist, journaling, or talking to trusted friends or family members. You might even want to consider the five stages of grief when confronting your life following a New Jersey divorce:

  1. Denial: The first stage of grief is often characterized by disbelief or shock. It is common for people to reject the reality of their loss and to feel numb or paralyzed.
  2. Anger: As reality starts to set in, the second stage of grief may involve feelings of anger or frustration. People may lash out at others or question why this has happened to them.
  3. Bargaining: The third stage of grief can involve trying to negotiate with a higher power or with fate. People may try to make deals or promises in an attempt to change what has happened.
  4. Depression: The fourth stage of grief may involve feelings of sadness, loneliness, or hopelessness. People may withdraw from others and experience physical symptoms like fatigue or loss of appetite.
  5. Acceptance: The final stage of grief involves coming to terms with the loss and finding a way to move forward. People may start to feel more at peace and begin to focus on rebuilding their lives.
Focus on Self-Care

After a divorce, it's important to prioritize self-care. This means taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. Make sure you're eating well, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep. Consider taking up a new hobby or activity that you enjoy, such as painting, hiking, or cooking. This can help you focus on something positive and give you a sense of purpose.

Build a Support Network

Another coping tactic is to have a support network. A support network is crucial when coping with being alone after a divorce. Reach out to friends and family members who you trust and who can offer you emotional support. Consider joining a support group for people who have gone through divorce or seek out a therapist who can help you work through your emotions.

Avoid Isolating Yourself

It's easy to fall into the trap of isolating yourself after a divorce, but this can actually make things worse. Make an effort to stay connected with others and avoid withdrawing from social situations. This can include going out with friends, attending social events, or even just chatting with a neighbor.

Embrace Your New Life

Instead of focusing on what you've lost, try to embrace your new life and all the opportunities it presents. Take the time to explore new interests and hobbies, or consider going back to school or starting a new career. This can help you find a sense of purpose and fulfillment in your new life.

Practice Gratitude

It's easy to get caught up in negative emotions after a divorce, but it's important to try to practice gratitude for the good things in your life. Make a list of things you're grateful for each day, no matter how small. This can help shift your focus to the positive and help you feel more optimistic about your future.

Coping with being alone after a New Jersey divorce can be challenging, but it's important to remember that you're not alone. Reach out to others for support, prioritize self-care, and focus on embracing your new life. With time and patience, you can find happiness and fulfillment on your own terms. If you have any questions about a New Jersey divorce, call 201-845-7400 for a free consultation.

Client Reviews
Peter has integrity, and values his relationships with his clients beyond his financial relationship with them. For me to say this about any lawyer is really saying something. He is compassionate, straightforward and knowledgeable. I would easily recommend him to anybody. Lewie W.
Peter Van Aulen handled my case with great diligence and integrity. He is also a compassionate individual who realizes what a difficult time divorce can be emotionally. Peter works hard and doesn't take any shortcuts in preparing for a case… I highly recommend Mr. Van Aulen and his staff. Chuck Solomon
Peter is an exceptionally great attorney. He handled my child custody case and was able to ease any of my concerns with honest answers. He always took the time to explain the pros/cons and was always available to answer any questions that I had… I would highly recommend this attorney to anyone who is looking for one. Jessica Cruz
Peter Van Aulen is a very compassionate, honest and straightforward person. He was there for me at my lowest point with a genuine concern not only for my situation, but for me and my child's well being above all… He is fair and he is strong and when push comes to shove he is there for you. Cathy Dodge
Our cousin used Peter's law office to help with a sticky custody situation. He was extremely responsive, very nice and most importantly did an awesome job with the court! He is awesome. Lawrence Polsky

*Results may vary depending on your particular facts and legal circumstances