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Strategies and Tactics to Deal With In-Laws During Divorce

Dealing with in-laws during divorce can be a truly challenging endeavor. The relationship with in-laws can often become complicated and stressful during a divorce. Indeed, before diving into some strategies and tactics designed to aid in dealing with in-laws during divorce, you do need to keep in mind that maintaining any kind of connection let alone a relationship with them may be impossible. With that said, there are some suggestions to consider when it comes to dealing with in-laws during divorce.

Be Honest and Transparent About the Situation With Your In-Laws

Be honest and transparent about the situation with your in-laws. Divorce can be a sensitive topic, but it's important to be open and honest with your in-laws about what's going on. Let them know what's happening and how it might affect your relationship with them. This can help prevent misunderstandings and build trust.

Try to Maintain a Positive Relationship

Remember that in-laws have been family. In some cases, they may be a source of support during this difficult time. Try to stay in touch with them, whether it's through phone calls, texts, or visits. Show them that you still care about them and value their relationship.

Set Boundaries and Be Clear About Your Expectations

If you don't want your in-laws to discuss your divorce with other family members or friends, let them know. Be clear about what you're comfortable with and what you're not. This can help prevent any misunderstandings or conflicts.

Keep Communication Lines Open

If possible, try to maintain regular contact with your in-laws. This can help prevent misunderstandings and build trust. Even if it's just a quick phone call or text message, staying in touch can make a big difference in maintaining healthy relationships.

Consider Family Therapy

If you're having difficulty communicating with your in-laws, consider seeking the help of a family therapist. A therapist can help facilitate open and honest communication, which can help improve relationships and resolve conflicts. This may be an option particularly if there are children born during the marriage. On the other hand, as was noted at the start of this discussion, there are instances in which the facts at hand dictate a realization that you may need to walk away from any relationship you previously have had with your in-laws.

Be Respectful of Your Ex-Partner's Relationship With Their Family

Even if you're no longer together, your ex-partner may still have a close relationship with their family. Be respectful of their relationship and avoid saying anything negative about them.

Don't use your children as a weapon. Avoid putting your children in the middle of any disputes or disagreements with your in-laws. Children should never be used as pawns in a divorce, and it's important to keep them out of any conflicts or disagreements.

Take Care of Yourself

Dealing with in-laws during a divorce can be stressful and emotionally draining. Make sure to take time for yourself and seek support from friends or a therapist if needed. Self-care is essential during this difficult time, and it can help you stay healthy and focused. Do not sacrifice your sense of self out of some misplaced feeling that you need to be committed to placating your in-laws during the course of your New Jersey marriage dissolution case.

Do Not Use Your In-Laws as Pawns in Your Divorce

When trying to formulate a way to deal with your in-laws during divorce, do not attempt to use them as pawns during the proceedings. This includes:

  • Do not try to turn them against your soon-to-be former spouse
  • Do not use them to manipulate your soon-to-be former spouse
  • Do not attempt to manipulate them

In the final analysis, and it bears repeating yet again, it may be impossible to maintain any kind of relationship with your in-laws during a New Jersey divorce. The day may come when you may be able to restore some semblance of a relationship with at least some of your in-laws. Of course, individual members of your spouse’s (or former spouse’s) family may have different reactions to your divorce and to you. You need to keep in mind that your in-laws may not respond to your divorce in a monolithic manner. If you have any questions concerning filing a divorce in New Jersey, call (201) 845-7400 for a free consultation.

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